Like every year I have just traveled to Germany, which for me is always a time for self exploration, contemplation and practice.I am spending time with my parents, which is a source of delight and struggle at the same time. As I am exploring the different emotions that are coming up I realize how many ideas I have about my parents and how challenging it is to be totally present with them and myself. I carry so many beliefs in general as to how parents/people should be and specifically as to how my parents should be and aren’t. This of course sets me up for disappointment and is in the way of just being with them and experience what happens for me and in my body from moment to moment.
So my practice is to let go of thoughts, ideas, the stories of my mind and stay in the moment and meet everyone as they are right now. To listen without judgement and be open to different viewpoints and realities.
This is also the only way how I can be in touch with my needs, my own flow, my guidance, my intuition.
How is that for you?
Maybe you want to take a moment and ask yourself if you can be in touch with yourself when you are around others, especially anyone challenging like possibly your parents, ex partners, children? Can you actually feel what is happening in yourself, rather than trying to change your outside world in order to feel better? If not, what would it take?
How would your life be different if you could feel your vulnerability, be in touch with what you need, rather than being frustrated that the outside world is not meeting your needs? How would it be if you could be aware of anything that causes activation inside of you and then check in how to regulate yourself again.
How would your life be different if you could be with yourself when you experience something undesired that appears to come from the outside? How would it be to hold yourself and your little one right now and make them feel safe and held? Are you in touch with your needs and your vulnerability in this moment? How do you feel in your body?When you are present with yourself you are able to feel the flow of life and can easily get in touch with the light that lives you. You are available for your way of receiving intuitive information and act from your guided self.
I think this makes a wonderful practice in every day life. What do you think?
Much love and many blessings,